Why Seeing Someone is Vital for Overcoming Trauma

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For any individual who has walked through the harrowing landscape of trauma, the question isn’t as simple as “have you seen someone about it?” but rather, “how have you been through it?” This prompts a vital discussion about the role and significance of professional help in the aftermath of trauma. While some may shy away from seeking help, the truth remains unflinchingly clear – seeing someone, be it a therapist, counselor, or support group member, is not just an option; it’s a crucial milestone on the path to healing.

The Loneliness of Suffering and the Need for Connection

Trauma is inherently isolating. When someone experiences a deeply distressing event, there is often an immediate and instinctive withdrawal, a flight into the dark caverns of one’s mind, in an attempt to shield oneself from the world and its potential threats. The result is a profound sense of loneliness and alienation. To overcome this, one must relearn the value of connection. By ‘seeing someone,’ individuals take the first step in breaking their silence, in connecting not only with another human being but with the hope that there are others who can bear witness to their suffering and support their recovery.

Professional Help as a Map Through Unfamiliar Terrain

Navigating the complexities of trauma requires a guide. And not just any guide at that. Professional therapists who are under esteemed and experienced care providers such as Dr. Janina Fisher, are some of the best examples of what a “guide” should be. With Dr. Fisher’s extensive teachings and courses, you can be sure that the person walking with you through this difficult time can help you out. 

Professional help is akin to a map, providing trauma survivors with a structured way of understanding their experiences and charting a course through the aftermath. Therapists and counselors offer a perspective unclouded by the emotional storm that trauma often brings. They stand as torchbearers, illuminating a path survivors can take, where their stories are not shunned but explored and found context within a broader framework of healing.

The Courage to Be Seen and Heard

Many trauma survivors grapple with feelings of guilt and shame, mistakenly seeing themselves as the architects of their own misfortune. Thus, reaching out for help is not merely about finding a solution—it’s a courageous act of declaring, “I am worth seeing. My story is worth hearing.” This declaration is a fundamental step toward reclaiming a sense of self-worth and empowerment that trauma often robs its victims of. In the safety of a therapeutic setting, individuals can speak their truths without fear of judgment, gradually shedding the invisible chains that bind them to their past.

Group Support: A Collective Gaze

Peer support groups provide another dimension of the ‘seeing’ experience. Within these spaces, individuals come together not as patients and therapists, but as equals who have endured similar traumas. Here, ‘seeing someone’ takes on a collective meaning as members bear witness to each other’s stories, validating and normalizing one another’s experiences. This communal gaze is a powerful source of empathy and validation, underscoring the universal truth that no one stands as the sole witness to their pain.

Moving From Victimhood to Agency

“Seeing someone” is not a passive act—it is a radical statement of reclaiming agency. Through the eyes of compassionate professionals and peers, trauma survivors can begin to see themselves not as passive victims but as active agents in their own recovery. The act of being seen and valued counteracts the dissociation so common in trauma, reuniting survivors with their own narratives and giving them the strength to rewrite their stories from a perspective of hope and resilience.


In the aftermath of trauma, being seen and heard by another human being can feel like a small miracle, a glimmer of humanity shining through the fog of despair. This recognition has the power to transform individuals from broken and lost to hopeful and on the path to healing. Seeking professional or peer support is an acknowledgment that trauma does not have the final say—a powerful assertion that one’s story will not end with the trauma but is being rewritten with each session, each group meeting, and each compassionate gaze.